We live in an era governed by material things, social status, little time for the family, everything revolving around an exaggerated consumerism culture. Social and economic order encourages the acquisition of goods and services in ever-increasing amounts. And although work is important to ensure sustainability in this life, for many it becomes the biggest goal causing them to forget about the rest of the important areas of their lives; weakening the family’s stability. It is clear that we are proud of everything we can afford to give our children and that perhaps our parents could not give us in previous times, but we are forgetting that money comes and goes and times of wealth pass by. What really matters is what we have taught our children: effort, dedication, responsibility, affection, kindness, good treatment with the other, generosity, good relations with their brothers, forgiveness, being grateful for what they have (not for the cell phone, nor the car, if not thank for my family, for being healthy, for having a brother, for having grandparents who love them).
IF YOU ARE PERMISSIVE OR ABSENT AS A PARENT, you are contributing to creating generations of RICH CHILDREN: Rich in technology, with tablets, cell phones at early ages, with thousands of toys in their rooms that they do not value, rich in travel and branded clothes. Rich in rudeness, in solitude, liars, envious, malignant, rebels, rich in ease, rich in many whims that you indulge without control, rich in applying the law: eye for eye tooth for tooth, if they hit me I return and worse, vengeful etc …
Is this the wealth that you really want to leave your son / daughter? I can easily tell you that your child will be POOR, if this chain continues, children poor in affection, poor in dialogue, poor in solving problems (everything is solved by the parents or is the school’s fault), poor in fulfilling their responsibilities, poor in accepting their mistakes, poor in respect for my brothers, fathers and grandparents, poor in following rules at home.
THE INSTITUTION THAT MOST EXERCISES INFLUENCE ON THE CHILD IS THE FAMILY
Children with absent parents, feel insecure, afraid, but survive as they can and fill these gaps with the material things that their parents give them to compensate. They match happiness with material wealth.
Parents must take on the role of being parents, understand that when they decided to bring a child into the world, they acquired a great responsibility, not as a toy-giver, but to develop a useful human being for society, confident of itself, a good citizen, with rules to follow and fulfill etc. Us as parents, possess beliefs about how our parents educated us and without even noticing, we do the same or the opposite but exaggerated with our children, creating an endless chain of generation after generation of errors,
YOU HAVE THE POWER IN YOUR HANDS, TO RAISE RICH CHILDREN OR POOR CHILDREN … YOU DECIDE …
I recommend a wonderful book that is worth reading … TU HIJO..TU ESPEJO- UN LIBRO PARA PADRES VALIENTES, written by Martha Alicia Chávez is a renowned Mexican systemic psychotherapist, lecturer and writer, author of 10 successful books. It is considered an authority on issues concerning the education of children and the relationships between parents and children. You can download it in PDF on the internet.